What a great day it has been! Can you believe I’m saying that? It started at 4 a.m. when we got out of bed to get our day started. We left before 5 a.m. to get to the surgery center where Sonya had her shoulder surgery. We weren’t certain what to expect. The doctor had once said there was a small tear in the rotator cuff, and then he said there wasn’t. Then he said he would check it, and if there was a tear, he would repair it. But he thought it would just be bone spurs and a frozen shoulder issue. He was right. And we are thankful. The surgery went well, and because Sonya received a nerve block, she has had zero pain. I know that unless God intervenes, that will probably change when the block wears off, but we have some good pain meds, and I might even let Sonya take some, too. I’m just kidding. I’ll definitely share.
But back to my first statement about it being a great day. I have found in my life that God uses days like this to teach me something, and on this day, I believe that He has taught both Sonya and me something important. You see, I’m a nurturer. That’s the way God created me. I would like to think that I would have been the Samaritan in the parable that Jesus told. It is my nature to minister to people and to take care of needs. Now, I’m not bragging; it’s just who God made me to be. And I’m really not bragging because I sometimes tend to go to the extremes. In times past, when Sonya has been sick or has had surgery, I have overdone it just a bit. At least, that’s what she has told me. Many times. Sometimes quite loudly. Again. And again. And again. So today, I made a promise to both Sonya and myself. I would not be a “hoverer.” That’s what Mrs. Barbara called me. A “hoverer.” One who hovers, I suppose, is how Webster’s Dictionary would define that word. Waiting for an opportunity to take care of a need. But Mrs. Barbara, today I have not hovered. Don’t misunderstand. I have taken care of Sonya, and I will take care of her until she is back on her feet, but I have not constantly asked if she was okay or if she needed anything. At the same time, she has needed me because for 20 minutes out of the hour, she has needed an ice pack on the shoulder. So we have to set a timer, and I have to get the ice pack from the freezer and take it back to the freezer. She’s also had to tell me when she needed something to eat and when she had other needs. So we have both learned something today and here it is: sometimes we all need to be nurtured, and sometimes the nurturer needs to wait to be asked.
I also learned another lesson today. There are times when it is a good thing when good friends refuse to listen to you. Too often, ministers don’t allow others to minister to them. I try not to be that way because I know that when I am, I limit God’s blessings on others. Because of the early hour that we had to be at the surgery center and because we didn’t have even an estimated time of the surgery, we asked everyone to simply pray and not come to sit with us. We honestly didn’t feel that we needed anyone to come since the surgery would be over so quickly, but I have to admit that it was nice having someone there to keep my mind occupied. Sonya’s “second momma” and “extra sister” were right there, and they were greatly appreciated! Thanks, ladies, for allowing God to use you!
So I learned two things today, and that always makes it a great day!