Because I said so! Do you remember saying those words? I do. And it all came flooding back to me this past weekend as I heard my 2 ½ year old granddaughter repeatedly ask the question, “Why?” Being the kindly old Bats (that’s what she calls me) that I am, I very patiently answered every question as logically and as lovingly as I could, but I remembered the times when my two wonderful daughters would ask the “why” question so many times that I would finally and ultimately (at least I thought it would be) say, “Because I said so.” However, that didn’t always stop the onslaught of question after question after question which, I suppose, is good because it represents the curiosity of childhood that allows the imagination to flourish and the mind to expand.
But when it comes down to the point where God’s Word says, “Because I said so,” that should end all discussion. Let me explain what I am talking about. Yes, I know that recent posts have been a little on the lighthearted side, but today, I am just plain aggravated. I read an article about a story taking place in Oklahoma where a woman and her daughter were arrested because they had gotten married. Yes, you read that right. They were legally married. My first question when I read the headline was, “How is that even possible?” So I read the story, and to my horror I discovered that this woman had married her son years before. Is your mind blown yet? Apparently Mom had lost custody of her children and they had been adopted by the grandparents. No surprise there, right? When the adoption took place, the names on the birth certificates were changed, so when they were presented to the Probate Judge, there were no red flags.
No red flags. I can’t even believe I am typing those words in conjunction with this story. No red flags. First, there should have been a red flag because a woman was marrying another woman, but of course, I am being intolerant and ignorant and hateful for typing those words. But let me say one thing. God said it first. The second red flag should have waved rapidly in the breeze because the woman had already married her son, so unless they had gotten a divorce (how bizarre is that to even think of getting a divorce from your own child), she is not guilty of polygamy. Do they not even check these things? So here we have it: incest, polygamy, homosexuality. Now I know that some of you are going to catch me on this one and say, “Pastor, there were lots of polygamists in the Bible.” That’s true, but that wasn’t part of God’s plan. God’s plan was for one man and one woman to be united in marriage for a lifetime. Period. End of discussion. Because God said so.
But think with me for just a moment, and understand that I am playing the devil’s advocate here. When it comes to men marrying men and women marrying women, our society and the Supreme Court of the United States of America have already said that what God says doesn’t matter. So they have removed one of the most important boundaries God ever placed on human kind, and many of our politicians and the people of this great nation have stood and applauded their actions while the majority of professing Christians have remained silent and refused to say, “This is wrong – not because we think so but because God said so!”
So what typically happens when you remove one boundary or limitation? Someone decides to push the next boundary. Already we have heard the cries for legalization from those who believe in multiple marriages. I believe there have even been reality television shows produced on the subject. Likewise, we have heard the cries from those who believe that sexual relationships between adults and children should be legalized because, after all, we are all sexual creatures. And my goodness, there have even been some hints from groups who want to have sex with their animals.
Here’s my point: if we have reduced morality to whatever feels right to the individual, which, by the way, is what we have done, then who are we to stand in the way of any of these activities? You see, the change in marriage laws is not about the majority beliefs in this great nation. We have seen that in state after state where the Supreme Court has forced the issue and overturned the votes of the people restricting marriage to one man/one woman. So forget about state’s rights. Forget about majority rules. Forget about the basic constructs of morality. We have reached the point in this country where we truly believe that if it FEELS right then it must BE right. How wrong that statement is, but if our government is willing to enforce it to the fullest extent of the law, then we have embraced a new morality without limitations.
With that said, however, I honestly believe that the citizens of this great land called the United States of America are not so far gone (yet) that they would be ready to legalize sex with animals or children or incest or polygamy, but what right do we have to stop the craziness unless we go all the way back to this simple statement: Because God said so!